Changes in the world seem to be occurring more rapidly than ever before. It feels as if time is speeding up. Thanks to the media and technology, we can witness more natural disasters than ever before – the tsunami in Japan, a multitude of earthquakes, the floods in the South and hurricane Irene. Financial markets continue to crumble, household names that we once took for granted have disappeared, and war continues in many parts of the world.
It is not news that everything changes. History proves this point. The only thing that we can control is whether we welcome, avoid or resist change. Many of us prefer to stay in our comfort zone, even though we are miserable and it’s not what we want, because we know what to expect.
Change, even when it is labeled good, causes stress. We don’t know what to expect. Our sense of stability and security is challenged. We don’t know where to begin again or who trust. We might have too much information coming at us too rapidly.
Change comes as a result of learning. If you find yourself saying, “I’m too old to learn,” you are really saying, “I don’t want to change.” If you have ever asked yourself the question, “Who am I?” you are making yourself available to change as you begin to learn who you are.
Waiting for someone else or a situation to change is a waste of time. The only thing we can control is how we look at it. If we want something to change, we must change the way that we think about it. It isn’t easy, but it can be done. Ask your Higher Power or Source or the Universe to show you a different way of looking at the person or circumstance. Henry David Thoreau, in Walden, said, “Things do not change; we change.”
Could there be a pattern that is blocking our ability to live a life that is easy and effortless. If there is, how can we discover these blocks and heal them? We might have great intentions and really want to change, but we don’t. Real change occurs in our subconscious. Our beliefs are hidden from us, but they are running the show. These ideas and attitudes were developed when we were children and might stem from a traumatic event or memory, and they need to be uncovered and replaced with our perspective as an adult. For example, if your parents kept telling you that you would not amount to anything, it is now time to change that thought to something positive, such as, “I have gifts and talents to share with the world.”
We can give up the emotional turmoil that we experience when faced with an ending or a new beginning if we recognize that all change occurs for our own growth and self-development. Lesson 151.10.3-4 in A Course in Miracles says, “You will no longer doubt that only good can come to you who are beloved of God, for He will judge all happenings, and teach the single lesson that they all contain. He will select the elements in them which represent the truth, and disregard those aspects which reflect but idle dreams. And He will reinterpret all you see, and all occurrences, each circumstance, and every happening that seems to touch on you in any way from His one frame of reference, wholly unified and sure. And you will see the love beyond the hate, the constancy in change, the pure in sin, and only Heaven’s blessing on the world.”